People with early dementia do not have the capability to understand reasoning from you. The bottom line is he/she is fine and YOU are the problem :) This level of dementia no longer has his/her "filter" on what is approriate to say to others and what is not. They will spout with statements that will make the hair on the back of you're arm stand on end. I remember my grandmother at a church service with me... we were watching a baby dedication ceremony. All of the sudden when it was completely quiet my grandma said (very loudly): "That's one ugly baby; isn't that an ugly baby? I don't think I've ever seen such an ugly baby, what a shame". Awkward!! Ever feel like you want to sink into whatever you're sitting on and become part of the chair (I did at that moment :). But I always have to remember that it's the disease talking and not the other parts of her that are my grandma. Sometimes you have to have a sense of humor, because they will surely test it.. FREQUENTLY. Similarly when the patient with early dementia accuses his/her loved ones of being against him/her and that he/she are the victim and it's all the family member's fault. That is also the disease talking - which helps us deal with those types of statements instead of allowing it to make us feel guilty; a failure. Chin up - it's a nasty disease that makes people say things they don't really mean.
